We live in a digital era in which everyone is connected to everyone and everything through technology. Thanks to many forms of digital communication, the world has become a global village.
Thus, it’s rare to miss connecting with someone from anywhere.
You can text, use Facebook or other social media services, or phone them. Much of the world can connect through these methods.
So, communicating with your loved ones is easy. Connecting with that girl you like is no longer a problem, thanks to texting, messaging, and calling.
With so many options, you wonder why someone would stop reaching out.
You have been chatting with this girl you met the other day. Your conversation has been so interesting that you are convinced that she is the one.
And then, she suddenly goes dark. She does not reply to your texts or receive your calls.
No matter how much you try, it’s not working.
It’s painful. You are convinced she is reading every text you send. You can see the read receipt on the texts you sent.
How do you interpret that? How do you handle it? What’s the reason this girl leaves you on read?
Keep reading to get the answer. You will learn how to interpret her silent signals and the lack of messages in this digital era.
Understanding Silent Treatment
Silent treatment may be viewed as emotional abuse. Someone refuses to communicate with you verbally or nonverbally.
Girls often use the silent treatment in romantic relationships as punishment. People who use this method refuse to acknowledge the other person’s presence .
If a girl gives you the silent treatment, it could be her way of controlling or manipulating you.
There are several reasons why someone would use silent treatment on you.
- They are avoiding you. Sometimes, people choose to stay silent in a conversation because they want to avoid a conflict. If a girl refuses to reply to your text, it could be that you said something that could cause conflict. She may choose to remain silent to keep peace.
- It’s how they communicate. Some people don’t know how to communicate or express their feelings, but they want their partner to understand how upset they are. Instead of shouting or causing a scene, they choose to remain silent. You need to find out what you may have done to resume communication.
- Punishment. Silent treatment could also be a form of punishment. They want to exert control or power over you. In this case, it’s emotional abuse.
Many men have been victims of silent treatment, and it can be damaging. A man in love wants to communicate with his lady at all times.
Love is like an addictive drug. When one falls in love, it triggers a release of several hormones in the brain, including dopamine.
These hormones reward one with calmness and pleasure, especially when cuddling, kissing, or engaging in sexual activities. It’s a feeling they may get hooked on with a special person.
Silent treatment can affect that relationship. It can greatly affect a person who has invested in a relationship.
You want to discuss the problem with her, but she withdraws. She does not respond to your texts or answer your calls.
It hurts when you notice your text message has been read, but she has not responded as expected. Research indicates that this can cause anger and distress.
Discovering Why She is Not Responding to Your Texts
It would be best if you didn’t know whether she received and read your text. But that is not the case.
Technology has advanced so much that you can tell when a message was delivered and opened. Whether it’s a text message, an email, or a social media chat, it shows all the details.
Now, imagine this.
There is this girl you like. You recently met and hit it off immediately.
All signs indicate that she is the one. You have been texting, and she seems very happy.
Suddenly, she stops responding. You send a message as usual. It’s delivered and read. But that is all you get.
Or perhaps it is a girl you have been dating for a while. Your relationship has been going great.
And then it happens. You send a text one day, and she never replies.
How do you respond to that? How do you deal with a girl who won’t text back?
It’s all about how you interpret the silence. Here are a few ways to look at it:
She’s Embarrassed
Remember when you tried texting a new girl after getting her number? It was not easy!
It’s nerve-wracking when you are just starting to know her. You are not sure what to say or how to say it.
Sometimes, it will take several days before you send that first text. And it’s not that you don’t want to speak to her.
Well, guess what? It happens to girls, too.
So, one way of interpreting the lack of a text back is that she is really into you and does not want to mess up. So, she is taking her time to find the right reply.
In that case, you can keep sending her reassuring messages. You want to let her know that you understand and care about her.
She Is Busy
Is the person you are texting always busy? For example, does she have a full-time job, or is she a student?
This could make it difficult for her to respond to your text immediately. She may have seen it but hasn’t found the time to sit down and compose the right response.
Be patient and give her time. You can send a follow-up message after a day in case she forgot to get back to you.
She Is Ignoring You
If you have been chatting, her refusal to respond could simply mean she is ignoring you. Some people often use the silent treatment to end relationships.
It could be that you said something that offended her, but she does not know how to respond. So, she ignores your texts to avoid conflict.
Think about what you may have done or said wrong. Then, work toward fixing it.
Sometimes, when people are silent, they want you to apologize or agree with them. This happens in many relationships.
She is Still Weighing How to Respond
You met a girl the other night, talked, and exchanged numbers. Now, you have texted her, and she has yet to respond.
Don’t panic. You are still new to her; she could be weighing the interaction to see if you are the right person. She does not know yet that you are an amazing guy.
So, her silence does not necessarily mean she is not interested. She is taking things slow to see the type of person you are.
Most men make the mistake of responding too quickly to texts. They get desperate and make mistakes that scare a girl off.
You need to stay calm and give her space. Wait one or two days before sending another text.
Compose a new text. Don’t resend the previous text. And don’t ask why she did not respond. She will think you are being too obsessive.
She Does Not Understand the Message
Another reason she has yet to respond could be that she is trying to understand your message better and respond appropriately.
Text messages don’t come with facial expressions or verbal cues crucial to communication. It can be difficult for someone to read your intended meaning.
The recipient may fear to misinterpret the message. You will notice they have read it but are taking too long to respond.
This is one reason I always go through the texts I sent again. I try placing myself in their shoes to see if I can understand it better.
I will send a reassuring message if I notice something that might bring conflict or confusion,
You can do the same. Something like, “I noticed my previous text may appear too harsh. Don’t worry about it; I’m not mad,” can go a long way in clarifying your message.
If that is why she was taking too long, she should respond. The idea is to make her feel comfortable, especially if you are beginning to know her.
Conclusion
Correctly interpreting a lack of messages from someone you care about is extremely important. It provides clues about responding in a way likely to reengage that person.
Unfortunately, many guys get angry too quickly when a girl leaves them on hold. They think she is being rude and ignoring them.
Whereas that might be the case, it’s not always so. It could be any of the reasons mentioned above. Responding angrily will push her further away.
It’s best to stay calm, no matter the reason for her silence. Think about yourself and how a bad reaction might affect you. Also, think about the other person and the possibility that it might not be their fault.
