Are you coming up short in the dating world?
Are you wondering why women prefer a Bruno Mars type of guy over a tall guy?
Stop wondering and start doing something about it. After all, good things come in small packages like you and me, and you can make it work in the dating world as long as you focus on your advantages, and ignore your height.
Don’t let your height hold you back. Follow these simple and effective tips and you’ll be the king of the dating world.
Dating tips for short guys 101
Ignore Your Height
The first thing you need to do in order to be successful in the dating world is to ditch your short man attitude. Dating tips for short guys #1 is ignore your height.
Don’t be defensive about being short. I know you are probably getting jokes about your height ever since you were a child. We’ve all been there. But don’t let anyone tell you that you are not worth it because of your size.
Probably women, even those at your height pass you by in order to date tall guys. The fact of the matter is that society is pushing height as one of the qualities that make a good man. Ever since forever, height has been associated with power and masculinity. But Napoleon Bonaparte was one of the most powerful and feared men in the world, and he was 5’7”.
Do you know what is unattractive about your size? Your bitterness. No matter how you put it, bitterness is unattractive to anyone, no matter the size and everything else. The Napoleon complex and “short men are angry” complex is stopping many guys from being themselves. Don’t let that get to you. Your bitterness translates to your body language, and that sour attitude is stopping women from talking to you.
No matter how you put it, bitterness is unattractive to anyone, no matter the size and everything else. The Napoleon complex and “short men are angry” complex is stopping many guys from being themselves. Don’t let that get to you. Your bitterness translates to your body language, and that sour attitude is stopping women from talking to you.
Speaking of which, once you ditch your bitterness, and you express confidence wherever you go, you will instantly look more attractive. Confidence is the key to any success, be it business world, sports, or even dating. Your insecurity and that questioning yourself “whether she will like you because of your height” will scare any girl off.
In order to feel more confident, always focus on your qualities, the ones that make you a “real catch”. Draw the girl’s focus on those qualities, and she will like you. For example, if you are a graphic designer who designs T-shirts, wear one of them on your date. Or, wear your team cap if you are good in sports.
The best way to appear more attractive is to develop presence in the room. Anyone can capture the room’s attention, no matter how small or short he is. Some people are huge, and they can fill a room even though they are just 5’5” tall. You need to command attention, and with that attention, you will also draw affection.
To put it simply, you need to develop a sense of presence, an ability that commands attention from people around. You need to make people focus on you, no every little distraction around them. Be sure, attraction doesn’t come with the looks, it comes with the “way you make people feel”. Make the girl you talk to feel like “the only person in the world”, and she will be attracted to you. In other words, you’ll become magnetic.
Give Your Full Attention
Digging deeper into the “develop presence” tip, you need to give your full attention to the person you are talking to. Truth be told, there are million things that can occupy your attention, distractions are everywhere around us. But once you giving someone your full, undivided attention, magic happens. You make that person feel special, and there is no better feeling in the world. She will instantly want more of the same attention. If you can make someone feel like she is “the most fascinating person in the world”, she will be hooked on you.
How can you do that? Start with eye contact, strong but not intimidating, and continue with relaxed and open body language. But most importantly, be active listener. Don’t wait for your turn to talk, be active in the conversation, without interrupting your date.
Practice Eye Contact
Eye contact is tricky. It can be menacing gesture, cute and adorable, and intimidating in the same time. Do it wrong, and you’ll scare off any woman. The good news is that your height actually gives you advantage. Even if you gaze at someone for longer than three seconds, due to your height you are not as threatening as taller guys.
However, you still need to practice. The limit, if you can say so is three seconds without towering over the person you are talking to. Three seconds is the magic number that comes as pure attraction and that will make the girl think that you are really into her in a cute and adorable way. So, how can you practice? Simply, by doing it in non-romantic situations. Start with cashiers, waiters, and every other random person you meet. Even in the subway. Just remember, the goal is always to show interest in the matter, not creep the person out. Keep it natural, and you’ll see the results. The common mistake guys do is pry their eyes wide open. You are not an owl, you are a guy!
Style, Style and then More Style
This is my last and best dating tips for short guys. The reality is that short men need to work on their style more than taller guys. Wrong clothing can make any man look pint-sized, but it applies even more for short guys. The right clothing, on the other hand can lengthen your look.
The first rule is to get your sleeves shortened. One of the common mistakes that people make is wearing bunched fabric around their ankles and wrists, a move that draws attention the stature, which in your case, is smaller. Next on the list of mistakes is wearing clothes that visually break up your frame. You want something that provides you with streamlined look from top to bottom. You can lose the belt if your pants stay put. Or you can find a slim belt that has the same color as your pants.
Embrace monochromatic color schemes. Never wear clothes with strong contrast. When you are wearing too many different colors, the eyes of the person seeing you don’t travel smoothly. The sudden color change visually interrupts your look. That is why you want monochromatic schemes, or colors that are consistent in hue. Therefore, suits are your best option, as they are in same color from top to bottom. You can read more in my style tips for short men post.
Increase Your Value
If all else fails, remember that Robert Downey Junior is 5’9” and he is one the most attractive and wanted actors in Hollywood. The reason is simple, he is high value. No woman will turn down a high value man, no matter of his height. It might sound little business like, but once you raise your value, women will want you more. You can raise your value in a number of ways, not just by becoming CEO of a company. Learning to play an instrument well is another way to raise value, same as getting insanely fit.
Those were my dating tips for short guys.
What other tips would you add to this?
Good luck getting the women of your dreams shorties.